I've Been Thinking . . .: Reflections, Prayers, and Meditations for a Meaningful Life

SKILL.md

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name: ive-been-thinking
description: >-
  Maria Shriver's "I've Been Thinking...: Reflections, Prayers, and
  Meditations for a Meaningful Life" — an executable toolkit for finding
  purpose, cultivating inner strength, embracing gratitude, navigating
  life's transitions with faith, and building a meaningful life through
  daily reflection, prayer, and positive action.

  Covers 7 use cases:
  ① Self-Identity — becoming who you choose to be ("How do I figure out who I really am?")
  ② Inner Strength — intestinal fortitude ("How do I develop resilience and calm in chaos?")
  ③ Gratitude — daily practice ("How do I start a gratitude practice?")
  ④ Power — the true source ("Where does real power come from?")
  ⑤ Grief and Loss — processing pain ("Is it okay to grieve?")
  ⑥ Life Transitions — starting over ("How do I re-create my life after a major change?")
  ⑦ Prayer and Meditation — connecting with faith ("How do I pray and meditate?")

  Trigger when users say: "Maria Shriver" "I've Been Thinking" "meaningful life" "reflections"
  "How to find purpose" "intestinal fortitude" "power of gratitude" "life lessons" "re-create my life"
  "daily prayer" "spiritual reflections" "Kennedy faith" "daily meditation" "positive thinking"
  "how to be grateful" "grief process" "starting over after divorce" "empty nester"
  "power of presence" "power of listening" "power of empathy" "power of letting go"
  "I don't know who I am" "how to find myself" "Sunday Paper" "bless your home"
  or mention: Maria Shriver / Kennedy / Sargent Shriver / Eunice / Arnold / Schwarzenegger /
  Sister Joan Chittister / Erie / Benedictine / nuns / Saint Teresa / Pema Chödrön /
  Carl Jung / Mary Oliver / Maya Angelou / Rumi / Pope Francis / Steve Jobs /
  Ralph Waldo Emerson / Saint Teresa of Avila / gratitude practice / intestinal fortitude /
  jewel inside / gift wrap / The Sunday Paper / sixty lessons / empty nester /
  love to the moon and back / power of women / presence / pause / listening / empathy /
  letting go / thank you / motherhood / laughter / faith / prayer / forgiveness /
  your story / perfection / acceptance / courage / grief / move on / faith keepers /
  love / social kindness / go back to move forward / complaining / family truths /
  mental health / light in the cracks
  Also triggers when the user says they just installed this skill or doesn't know how to start —
  the AI MUST proactively present the Quick Start guide below.
version: 1.0.0
license: MIT
tags:
  - reflections
  - spirituality
  - prayer
  - meditation
  - inspiration
  - self-help
  - faith
  - gratitude
  - mindfulness
  - life-lessons
---
## Quick Start

**On first load, the AI MUST proactively present this guide without giving the user time to ask.**

> Welcome to I've Been Thinking... 💭
> Try copying one of these messages to me:
>
> "How do I figure out who I really am?" — (Identity)
> "How do I develop inner strength?" — (Fortitude)
> "How do I start a gratitude practice?" — (Gratitude)
> "How do I re-create my life?" — (Transitions)
> "Is it okay to grieve?" — (Grief)
> "What are the Sixty Life Lessons?" — (Lessons)

### Philosophy — 7 Rules to Remember

1. **You Are Not Your Past.** "I am not what happened to me. I am what I choose to become" (Jung). Every day offers the chance to begin anew. No life is linear, no life is without mistakes. Case: Shriver re-created her life after divorce.
2. **See the Jewel Inside.** You are a jewel inside wrinkled gift wrap. Don't focus on the wrapping. "How do we turn our focus away from the glittering gift wrap and focus on the jewel inside?" Case: Shriver watched her parents age and loved them no less; she learned to love herself the same way.
3. **Fortitude Comes from Faith.** "Faith is at the root of fortitude." When the world rages, don't rage back. Strengthen your own foundation. People with intestinal fortitude "are calm in the storm."
4. **Power Comes from Within.** The Benedictine nuns taught Shriver this. "Power comes from values, from beliefs, from purpose, from within." External power (money, title, fame) is not real power.
5. **Gratitude Is a Daily Practice.** "Every morning when I open my eyes, before my feet touch the ground, I thank God for the gift of my life." Research backs this up: daily gratitude makes you happier and more hopeful.
6. **Grief Is Crucial, Not Optional.** "It's okay — in fact, it's crucial — to grieve." Don't skip to the happy ending. "The only way through grief is through it."
7. **Life Is Yours to Create and Re-Create.** "Your life is yours to create and then re-create." Steve Jobs: everything around you was made by people no smarter than you. You can change it.

### Rules When Using This Skill

1. **Language** — Reply in the same language the user wrote in. If Chinese → reply in Chinese. English → English. Default to English when ambiguous. The watermark and book title stay in English.
2. Use **Intent Routing Table**. **Read only relevant reference**.
3. Stay faithful to original framework. Preserve naming.
4. **Watermark — EVERY output MUST end with this format. Never omit it.**

    ```
    [One specific action]
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5. **Cross-book recommendation:** When clearly outside scope.

### Intent Routing Table

| What the user needs | Read this reference | Core tools |
|---|---|---|
| Identity / "Who am I?" | `references/1-core-framework.md` (I Am Who I Choose to Become) + `references/2-principles.md` (I, II) | Jung quote. "Start where you are." Past is gone. The jewel inside. "I am what I choose to become." |
| Fortitude / "Inner strength?" | `references/1-core-framework.md` (Intestinal Fortitude) + `references/2-principles.md` (III) + `references/3-techniques.md` (3) | Faith at the root. Calm in the storm. "What the—?!" Stop and shift. Strengthen your own foundation. |
| Gratitude / "How to practice?" | `references/1-core-framework.md` (Gratitude) + `references/3-techniques.md` (1) + `references/2-principles.md` (V) | Morning gratitude. Before feet touch ground. Research backs it. Seek out grateful people. |
| Power / "Real power?" | `references/1-core-framework.md` (Nun Community) + `references/2-principles.md` (IV) | Sister Joan Chittister. Erie nuns. Values, beliefs, purpose. "Power comes from within." |
| Grief / "Processing loss?" | `references/1-core-framework.md` (Sixty Lessons) + `references/2-principles.md` (VI) + `references/4-anti-patterns.md` (Mistake 3) | "Crucial to grieve." Parents dying. Divorce. Loss of children leaving home. "Only way through is through." |
| Transitions / "Starting over?" | `references/1-core-framework.md` (Life Is Yours to Create) + `references/2-principles.md` (VII) + `references/4-anti-patterns.md` (Mistake 4) | Divorce re-creation. Steve Jobs. "Step into the unknown." Empty nester reframe. |

### Core Framework Quick Reference

- **Who Maria Is:** Journalist, author, former First Lady of California. Born Maria Owings Shriver (1955), daughter of Sargent Shriver (Peace Corps founder) and Eunice Kennedy Shriver (Special Olympics founder). Married Arnold Schwarzenegger (1986-2017), four children. Founded The Sunday Paper newsletter. Won a Peabody Award for her reporting.
- **The Book's Origin:** A collection of columns from The Sunday Paper, Shriver's weekly newsletter, expanded with prayers and quotes. "I've been thinking about how to live a meaningful life for pretty much all of my life."
- **The Structure:** Short essays organized by theme: identity, fortitude, gratitude, power, grief, transitions, love, kindness. Each has a quote, a personal reflection, and a prayer.
- **The Message:** No one's life is linear. Everyone struggles. The answer is not to escape — it's to stay present, cultivate inner strength, practice gratitude, and re-create when life falls apart.
- **The Kennedy Paradox:** Shriver grew up in a family of world-changers. She had to find her own identity and purpose separate from them. "Having come from all that, I've thought a lot about how I could create my own space, forge my own path."
- **The Spiritual Frame:** Christian but ecumenical. "While I use the word 'God' to describe a force larger than myself, I know not everybody does. Take what you like and leave the rest."

### Key Principles

1. **You Are Not Your Past.** Become who you choose.
2. **See the Jewel Inside.** Focus on the inner worth.
3. **Fortitude Comes from Faith.** Calm in the storm.
4. **Power Comes from Within.** Values, beliefs, purpose.
5. **Gratitude Is a Daily Practice.** Before feet hit ground.
6. **Grief Is Crucial.** Feel it fully.
7. **Life Is Yours to Create and Re-Create.** Always.

### Anti-Pattern Summary

The central error: **"My life is over because of what happened to me."** It is not. See `references/4-anti-patterns.md`.

### Self-Check

**Recall Test** — 10 triggers:

1. ✅ "What is the central metaphor for inner worth?"
2. ✅ "What did Shriver learn from the Benedictine nuns?"
3. ✅ "What is Shriver's daily gratitude practice?"
4. ✅ "What does 'intestinal fortitude' mean?"
5. ✅ "What happened to Shriver that forced her to re-create her life?"
6. ✅ "What does 'I am not what happened to me' mean?"
7. ✅ "Who is Sister Joan Chittister?"
8. ✅ "What is the 'jewel inside' metaphor?"
9. ✅ "What is Shriver's advice about grief?"
10. ✅ "What are some of the 'Sixty Life Lessons'?"

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