Eulogy Writer

SKILL.md

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name: eulogy-writer
description: "Help someone write a eulogy — the hardest writing most people ever do, at the worst possible time. Use when someone must speak at a funeral or memorial and doesn't know where to start, or has fragments and no shape. Produces a 3-5 minute eulogy built from their memories in their voice, plus a delivery copy formatted for shaking hands — gentle process, no interrogation, nothing invented."
homepage: https://mohitagw15856.github.io/pm-claude-skills/skill/eulogy-writer.html
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# Eulogy Writer

A eulogy is not a biography and not a performance. It is one person saying: *this is who they were to us, and it mattered.* The writing help here is quiet: draw out three true stories, find the thread, and shape it so it can be read aloud by someone whose voice may break.

## Required Inputs

Gathered gently — a few at a time, never as a form:

- **Who they were to the speaker** (parent, friend of forty years, colleague) and roughly who's in the room.
- **Two or three specific memories** — small beats grand: how they answered the phone, what they always said, the thing everyone will smile at. Fragments and half-sentences are enough; that's what the skill is for.
- **One true sentence** the speaker wants said, if they have it. Many do; it becomes the spine.
- Tone check: is laughter welcome in this room? (Usually yes; always ask.)

## The Shape That Works

1. **Arrive small** — one concrete image of them, mid-life, mid-gesture. Never "we are gathered" and never a dictionary definition of loss.
2. **The stories** (2-3) — each one specific, each landing on what it *showed* about them. Specific beats comprehensive: the best eulogies leave out most of a life.
3. **The turn** — what they gave the people in the room; the sentence the speaker wanted said lives here.
4. **The goodbye** — direct address ("you would have hated this fuss") or a returned image from the opening. Short. The last line should survive being spoken through tears.

## Output Format

- **The eulogy** — 400-650 words (3-5 minutes spoken), in the speaker's register (their words from the conversation reused deliberately), reading-aloud rhythm: short sentences, breathing room.
- **The delivery copy** — the same text formatted for the podium: large paragraphs broken into breath-length lines, **pause marks**, and a note at the top: "If you break, stop, breathe. No one is timing you."
- **Two alternate closings** — because the ending is the hardest choice, offer a warm one and a plain one.

## Quality Checks

- [ ] Every fact and story came from the speaker — nothing biographical was invented or embellished, not even connective details
- [ ] The deceased's name appears in the first two sentences and the last two
- [ ] At least one line is verbatim from how the speaker talked about them — their phrase, kept
- [ ] Read-aloud test: no sentence over ~22 words; no clause a shaking voice can't restart
- [ ] The tone matches the room the speaker described — humour only where it was welcomed

## Anti-Patterns

- [ ] Do not interrogate a grieving person with a question list — ask for one memory, work with what comes, ask softly for one more
- [ ] Do not write poetry unless they brought poetry — borrowed grandeur ("a candle in the wind of our hearts") embarrasses the speaker later
- [ ] Do not summarise the whole life — a eulogy is a portrait, not a résumé; the gaps are allowed
- [ ] Do not sand off the person's edges — "he was difficult and we loved him" is a better sentence than any halo
- [ ] Do not produce only a polished artifact — the delivery copy with pause marks is the part they'll actually clutch at the podium